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Edition 8 * January 9, 2001




Happy New Year to all of our members and readers alike! We hope the year 2001 will be a most wonderful year for us all.

Here is the latest to keep you updated...

We would like to introduce and welcome Jacki, the author of "Just Ask Jacki", a new and witty inspiration to our magazine. You can find her article on the Entertainment and Review Page. We are currently configuring the Radio AW radio program which is turning out to be quite an effort, but one that will be well worth it. The game room, after a little more tweaking, shall be launched by the end of the month. And, we are currently working on a Daily Page that will work similar to "My Yahoo" and "My Netscape" pages as a daily start or home page for our members. This new page will feature many helpful tools, calculators, calendar, links, AW links, email login, daily news and much more. The launch date for this latest project has not yet been released, however, we are working diligently to bring this new feature to you shortly.

The year 2000 has seen our birth, our steady growth and the development of many new friendships in our community. We hope the year 2001 will be just as adventurous. In fact, we're counting on it!

The Crone and the Duk *Do* Albuquerque by Mercy

I turned right on First Street, anticipation making my heart beat faster, as I headed to the depot to pick up Paris. Wait! What is that? A dead end, ending not at the AmTrak station, but instead at a huge parking garage that encompasses the whole intersection and a block on either side! I did not go through all of this, however, to be thwarted by an incorrect internet map, so after tracking down some of the few people in downtown Albuquerque on a Saturday afternoon, I found my way and waited for that big shiny train.

Best laid plans ... well, up to a point. After weeks and weeks of lists, it all began to fall apart as the weather man predicted an ice storm which would arrive on the day I was to leave Oklahoma. My birthday was one of fretting, and typing as fast as I could in the hopes that I could leave a day early. I think perhaps my boss did NOT want me to be stuck here anymore than I did so shortly after lunch I headed out. City streets were still snow and ice-packed but the interstates were clear as Gunny (my aging Buick) and I headed west. The trip went smoothly in spite of some bad prognostications from less daring people and the room was ready and now all I needed was my traveling buddy.

Finally, they tell us the train is coming. Just like in the movies, we hear the whistle, and I, along with some other new acquaintances begin to crowd our way out to the tracks. The train stops. There she is!!! I am trying to take pictures and yelling and waving! *Hi, Paris, my name is Susan!* and I get my first hug. Wonderful!

But you know, it can't be that simple. We crowd around the luggage cart ... *where is her luggage?* Finding one bag, we wait until all are gone. There is no more. *It's an ugly green bag with wheels* she tells them. But there are no ugly green bags ... no ugly brown bags ... there are no extra bags.

*I am sure it will turn up soon* the young man tells us as he takes her information and at last we start back towards our home for the week. I'm getting really nervous. Traveling is NOT her favorite hobby. She has been on a train for hours ... now she hasn't got her clothes??? How will she react? Is this going to be a new form of *lesbian drama*? Not to worry, other than a number of rather forceful expirations, she remains calm.

The phone call later that evening isn't reassuring. It isn't in Lamy, it isn't in Raton, it isn't where she started out nor anywhere that she has been along the way to Albuquerque. However, they tell her that she will be reimbursed (up to $100) for anything she needs to buy. Good thing. As much as I like her, I think the same clothes for 5 days might be a bit much! Fortunately she does have 2 pair of dry socks and her snuggly bathrobe and some sweats, so once refreshed by a nap and in comfy clothes, we order pizza (one of the many authentic New Mexican cuisine's we tested) and turn on a replay of a kd lang concert on TV. (And we enjoyed it very much, so there!)

Sunday morning ... the sunrise over the Sandias is absolutely gorgeous!! Like nothing I have ever seen before and after some coffee and the *free continental stale donuts* we head out for ... K-Mart! Woohoo ... to me even this is an adventure since I don't have any of them really close to me at home. We can see our breath as we walk along the sidewalk, yet I am comfortable in a heavy long sleeved shirt. Once she is able to change out of one of my sweatshirts (which was MUCH too big for her) she is looking like the classy lady she is, and we head for Old Town.

Old Town was the original part of Albuquerque, I am told, and it is quite lovely. A huge church, a plaza and a bazillion shops, all in adobe. There is limited parking and the streets aren't wide, so what traffic there is, goes slowly and it's a joy to walk on the streets. The shops are diverse, from traditional art, to tourist things (which I, of course, love!) to Swaroski sculpture, to tea, to clothing, to gems and oh ... a bead shop . We entered one shop of collectibles and other wonderful things and were met by the lovely and wonderful owner. Noticing a gold fish swimming in a big snifter, Paris asked her the name of the fish. *Wanda, of course* she grinned.

*Spelled J-u-a-n-d-a, no doubt?* replied Paris. Laughing, the womon said, *Well, you are so clever! I will have to be sure to spell it that way!* and she started visiting with us. Learning that we were visitors, she asked us where we lived and what we do.

*I'm the cook for the Children's Center at a University* Paris replies.

*...and she writes* I told on Paris.

*Oooh, what do you write? Books?* she asked.

Grinning, Paris said, *Poetry mostly ... and my books are … uuuhh … erotica!*

Squealing, the womon came out from behind her counter. *Oh how exciting! I have never, ever known anyone who wrote erotica!* Another Paris conquest

There was no way we could ever get into all of the shops and explore but we made a big dent and came *home* with goodies to munch on and leftover pizza too! A very good day! A nap, and then an evening of talking and laughing and laughing and laughing. Oh, how my stomach hurt when I went to sleep.

Monday arrives … still no bags. We head down to the depot, just in case, and get to know the young man at the baggage counter even better. What a sweet guy he was. He seemed absolutely devastated (more so than Paris) that the bag had been lost (his first) and called us frequently to let us know that it was still missing! But, aha! Now there is news. The bag is in Chicago! And it will return … Tuesday evening! We tell him we will come get it on Wednesday, since we didn't want to drive at night (17 degrees, you know ... and dark!)

Somewhat relieved, off we go again. Now last year, when I just drove through with a brief overnight stop, I had seen this card which said *Please present this card for your free Indian pot*. This was a major goal of mine. I wanted that free Indian pot. (Paris thought Indians would have the best! And 'free' no less … *Oooo … pottery!* says Paris) She knew that! The store was right downtown and hey ... even a parking place nearby. Oh my, the wonders that shop held. Pottery like I bought my twin as a wedding present at half the price I spent and 1/3 of the eBay price. Jewelry sparkling in the lights. Drums big enough to lie down on. I wanted to be rich sooooo bad! But I did get my little pot, which was actually a magnet … but hey, it is mine and it is free and it is an Indian pot....well, half of one anyway, as it is flat on the back! By now, my tummy is reminding me that another one of my favorite things to do is eat.

Armed with directions from Kurt (the missing baggage man), we head off to the Route 66 Cafe. (Another of the authentic New Mexican cuisine we tested - HotDog and CheeseBurger) The main street that we traveled most of the time is actually old Route 66 and this cafe is original but slicked up I am sure. Glass blocks in the walls, chrome, chrome and more chrome, I feel very deju-vuish as we enter. Oh it's just wonderful. I have been in so many places that looked quite similar, but they are all gone now. I tell Paris as she orders a shake, that I remember getting them and they always brought you this big stainless steel container that it was mixed in with all that wouldn't fit in the glass. Sure enough, our cute waitress arrives with enough chocolate shake for a chat room. *Oh gee, sure … I will help you with that* I graciously offer. We spent a lot of time there, eating our lunch; drinking our shakes and taking scads of photos. I was intrigued by a young man that was there, probably 17 with lots of piercings, and a real affinity for rock and roll of the 50s. Although I thought if he turned to me one more time saying *My mom and dad have that record* I was gonna smack him. LOL

Tuesday morning Paris says *Today we have to go to the bead store*. I am afraid I might have looked at her oddly. We have already been to the bead store. I didn't want to just stay there for a long time, because this is not one of her passions, and this is a joint venture. However, I am not going to argue so I grin agreeably. We rarely seemed to get started fast. Somehow, it seemed we would have the most unplanned discussions about everything under the sun during those morning hours. Perhaps it was the stale doughnuts that inspired them. But finally, we were both dressed and ready for the day, so off we went, back to Old Town … to the bead shop. Still in my agreeable mode, I notice some beads that I *must* have. I shall get them and bring them back home … but as I have them in my hands heading for the counter, I look for Paris. There she is ... over there where all those hematite beads are hanging on the wall. She has some in her hand. The clerk is telling her something. They are cutting the strand. She is going to make something!! Approximately two hours later, we leave, starving for a smoke and each carrying a little bag of beads and a 'made-by-us' necklace! That evening the story-telling and soul-sharing is punctuated by comments such as *Could I have just four of those little silver, curvy beads?*

I woke up Wednesday morning to a very serious Paris. *We can't go anywhere this morning* she says.

*OK … are you ill?* I ask full of concern.

*No* she says grinning shamefacedly, *I have to make something!* Off come the covers, and out come the beads! (We used the turned over corner of the bedspreads to *sort beads*) After awhile though we realize, we have to go back! There is always one thing that would make it just perfect (or perhaps make it fasten) so, by this time, the car knows the way to the bead store. We are greeted with big smiles and encouragement as we fatten their coffers once more. We do find time to explore some more stores as we look for a feather or 2. A store that just has cat stuff, including giant catnip cigars, which were big hits at Christmas! A store all about birds and other wildlife (right across from the cat store LOL). Paris was startled by a large flock of pigeons that took off joyously about 12 inches over her head, as we opened the shop door. (She was thinking EARTHquake … it was loud, quick and it shook, dangnear!) She apologized to the occupants of the shop, for yelling (a cuss word) and held her chest for a few! ~whew~! Then we found another candy store. This one has chocolate Necco wafers!!! (If you are young, you probably have no idea what a find that is) Paris asks the proprietor if they have non-pariels. We had talked about those chocolate delicacies with the little white sprinkles, earlier in the day. They don't have them, they're no longer popular. However, the shop owner says she will go make one and off she goes into the candy kitchen returning shortly with candy just for Paris. And then proceeds to tell us about how there used to be a bed and breakfast just for *womyn* and the owners were good customers. It seems though, that their dog got sick and had bladder control problems. This meant that their visitors became only those who loved the dog, and eventually they were out of business. Lesbians! You gotta love 'em. I understood that perfectly! But, ummm … were we that obvious? And she certainly wasn't *family* =^shrug^=

That evening was spent making jewelry. A new necklace for me and a couple of projects by Paris. All made, I might add, using tools out of the car toolbox. Not a lot of finesse there, but hey, they worked! I had found a store that had cedar berries. They are wonderful little beads … well after they have holes in them. So there I sat on the floor with a big embroidery needle stuck in one end of the berry and gripping it with a huge pair of channel locks as I forced it down. Every once in a while, one would move faster than I had planned, and Paris would duck as it sailed out of the pliers and over her head. It was fun!!

Of course, we had to go show off our handiwork. By this time, we were part of the family. They greeted us by first names, I sang along to the radio that was on. Even talked to other customers when they came in. One of the clerks told me that was how she got her job there. She was always there and talking to everyone that came in so they finally decided they should just hire her! Hey, that's a thought. I wonder if I can support my *kids* and myself on a bead shop clerk's salary??

We make another trip to the train station. The bag is there, and the young man has covered it with tags from every destination that is on the boards! Laughing, Paris takes its' picture before removing the tags. No further confusion needed! We say *See ya tomorrow* and the guy says *You leaving tomorrow?* Paris smiles and nods. He says, kiddingly *wanna check your bag?* Paris cracks up and says (in kind of a snarky whisper) *I don't think so!!*

Alas, Thursday arrives. One more trip to Old Town. But first we stop along the side of the street to take photos. There were a row of homes, with one vacant lot and the view behind them was just amazing. Clear blue sky with only an occasional airplane tail to interrupt the color. The air is crisp, and although Mr. Entertainment on the Weather Channel assures us that the temperatures in the daytime won't be all that warm, it is different. Even Paris is comfortable most of the time in her jacket. And this is a California girl! As we take picture after picture, including our footprints in the sand, the gentleman next door comes out. Seeing me with a handful of sand he asks *Do you need some sand for a project? I have some out back if you would like some.*

I explain to him that we are visiting, and I just want to take a little bit of it home with me. He then tells me that he and his wife have recently moved there. Have been waiting for years to come to Albuquerque and have visited many times. And I am not wrong. It is a most wonderful, majical place! Paris picks out interesting rocks for me, even a big one, and with pockets loaded we head back to the car. (What I would like, Sir, is some way to carry home the colors and the feel of the air and the fresh scent that I discover, even though we are in a big city.)

We go make a few last purchases; revisit the stores we liked the best. I keep darting off to take more pictures. *That building is for rent!* *Oh, wait, let's go back down this hidden street one more time!* We go say good-bye to Juanda, and her owner, and Paris tells her she will write her a story. And then tells her that she writes lesbian erotica, which instead of horror, is met with giggles. Uh oh, Paris … do you really need another toaster oven? The womon hugs us (sincerely, twice even) before we get out of her store, saying good-bye, and makes Paris promise to send her the poem or story. We go back to the candy store. Besides Necco wafers, I have now discovered rock candy on a stick, and need some to carry me home. We, of course, go to the bead store again. Paris needs a little help with a clasp for her project. One of the clerks says, *Why don't you just move here. You know you really should!* Paris says, thumbing my way *she's gonna!*

A nap that is too soon over; a hurried light dinner (more authentic New Mexican cuisine, which thruout the NM visit, consisted of KFC, PizzaHut, and BBQ Ribs! HA!) and then back to the depot. It's packed with people going somewhere for the holidays. The train is late. People are playing games of cards with their children. Young people with huge backpacks. A young girl goes by carrying a large stuffed monkey. She and Paris trade compliments as the girl smiles at the DewBear Paris is holding. The train is coming. I am suddenly soooooo sad. I don't want this new friend to leave. I don't want to leave. I want it to be forever Albuquerque sun; hysterical giggling; new projects. As I turn for one last hug I gulp out *Thank you for coming!* In true Paris style, she hugs me back and says *Well, I didn't this time, but maybe next!* OMG … one last laugh as she boards the train!

I am in the same position I was when she arrived. Standing by some railroad tracks laughing and crying at the same time. What a wonderful adventure it was! There IS majic in Albuquerque … at least for me. It's in the sky, it's in the soul of the city. It's in the hearts of the most friendly people I have ever encountered. It's there. And besides all that, I had the chance to translate a beautiful friendship into real life. *Paris … thank you for coming!*

And now, it's time for me to pack up. Time for one last treasure sorting. Time enough to finish off this roll of Necco wafers before I leave in the morning. Time to go home to my babies and Christmas. Time to start planning on when I am coming back. It's a dream ... aren't we supposed to have them at this time of year? And hey, soon it will be New Year's Eve and time for resolutions. I have some ideas!

And to all of you, may you each have a chance to make a dream come true. It doesn't have to be a trip to Albuquerque. You know what your dreams are. You can do it too. If Paris and I can do this, you can do anything!

See ya next month.

Recovery by Weavre
"It could kill you," they told me.
But I told them I'd rather be alive, than be afraid to die.

"You might be hurt," they said.
But I told them I'd rather soar once in free-fall, than fear the landing.

"You have responsibilities," they told me.
And they were right; I have the responsibility of opportunity,
Opportunity to live freely, to breathe, to try, to love openly, to risk, to experience.

"But what will you do if--?" they tried to ask me.
I cut them off, and answered that I would simply continue,
And dust myself off and continue again, and laugh at what I learned.

I lied.
I found myself afraid.
I hurt, and shed hateful tears of passion-searing pain.
I saw those around me hurting, and could not help.
I had said I would dust myself off and laugh and play again.
I lied.
Instead, I greedily sucked at the hot red nectar of my wounds,
As if it alone were the ambrosia that could nourish me.
I sat in my dust and cried.

But then, the dust got sneezy and cold and not much fun.
And so I brushed it off, and looked around.
The tears were gone--when had that happened?

The sun was shining, blue skies beckoned.

And so I stretched new wings, and soared again.

©Weavre

Facing problems as partners rather than adversaries Part 2 by ShadyGrove

Happy New Year.

In part 1 it was noted that in partnering with someone we are choosing a particular combination of solvable and unsolvable problems. One could substitute the word challenge for problem. I suggest this because problem is seen as negative by so many and than dreaded, avoided. People tend to approach problems with a negative attitude if they dread it. Thinking of challenges for learning, growth, change can result in a more neutral, open attitude.

In facing problems/challenges successfully partners need to come from a place of responding rather than reacting. This is a challenge in and of itself. Responding is not knee jerk, which is reacting.

Responding skillfully means thinking, choosing options, based on awareness of one's wants, needs, feelings, beliefs, positions, and boundaries.

When I counsel lesbian couples I coach them on cultivating 5 basic principles. These principles can quiet the manifestation of the 4 poisons, allow for clearer communication, and keep conflicts from escalating.

The five principles:

    Turning harsh startups into softer ones
    Making and receiving repair efforts
    Compromise
    Soothing yourself and each other
    Openmindness about personal difference; practicing good manners

Turning harsh startups into softer ones.

Startup means how we bring up issues of concern/conflict with our partners. Harsh startups usually trigger the poisons, which can lead to emotional flooding and in turn more emotional distancing, withdrawals from emotional bank accounts, and weakening of friendship and connection.

If you start a discussion harshly, with criticism, blaming, attacking you are going to create reciprocation of kind. A soft startup does not contain criticism or contempt.

How to soften up

Your point is a complaint. Present it as such. Your complaint can sound confrontational. That doesn't make it an attack. You can complain intensely.

Use I statements. We have probably all learned this or heard this before. Talk about your experience, feelings, wants, needs, and sanctions. Statements that sound like blame can trigger defensiveness and resentment..

Be descriptive. Describe what you see, experience from your point of view without editorializing about, evaluating or judging your partner.

Be clear and specific. Vague will get you nowhere.

Practice good manners. Be polite and appreciative.

Strive to bring issues up in a timely manner. Festering leads to harsher startups.

Making and receiving repair efforts

All couples engage in repair efforts. They are a partner's bid to connect, deescalate the tension, and restore balance within the coupleship. In emotionally intelligent, stable relationships, repair efforts get through to the partners. When discussions are getting out of hand a repair effort is an attempt to put the brakes on. Repairs come in all shapes and sizes and are often not sugar coated. If a partner is always turning away or against, or draining the emotional bank account repairs my go unnoticed. Lets face it negative disagreements aren't fun. Learning and knowing how to do the right kind of damage control that serves your relationship is one secret to success.

A ratio of more negative interaction/experience to positive will create a fog making it more difficult to recognize repair bids. Remember a ratio of 5 positives to 1 negative builds emotional bank accounts.

A touch of the hand, a sheepish grin, or a humorous remark can turn and escalating argument around.

Here are some recommendations for making and receiving effective repair efforts:

Watch, look and listen for signals your partner gives you Find ways to add emphasis to repairs, formalizing the words you use to make apologies, ask for breaks, show appreciation, or express feelings will help diffuse arguments. Talk to each other about how you like to be treated during an argument. Tell your partner when you are making a repair effort and when you receive one let her know you got it.

Soothing

When arguments heat up our bodies begin to react, our blood pressure increases as well as our heart rate. Research has shown that when arguing couples have heart rates of over 100 their abilities to focus and listen diminish. Take time outs for 15 minutes when discussion intensifies and your heart rate gets over 103 beats per minute. Use this time to deep breath, visualize or engage in whatever stragedies you have developed that calm you and allow for more open mindedness. Talk to each other about how you like to be comforted when you start feeling overwhelmed during an argument.

Compromise & Open mindedness

We all have the right to want 100% of what we want. That does not mean we have the right to demand that we get 100% of what we want 100% of the time. Expectations lead to demands and disappointment. Frustration is relative to expectation. When we put should, must, ought onto our partners we are on our way to creating unrealistic expectations of them and ourselves. We are fallible human beings. Allow for differences and Be willing to forgive. Aim for give and take.

No matter the differences you have chosen this person and formed a partnership. Hopefully that partnership entails commitment.

Making it over the long run will require an ability to cope and deal with the things that bug you about your partner and yourself. Over time you will change and go through a variety of life transitions as will your partner.

Putting into practice the 5 principles of softened startups, repair efforts, soothing, compromise, and open mindedness will positively influence the way you as partners respond to the challenges of doing commitment together.

In the next issue I will present part 3 of Facing Problems as Partners rather than adversaries.

ShadyGrove

This columns focus is psychological and emotional health/well being. Individual, couple, family and community concerns will be addressed here. I am a licensed lesbian feminist therapist. I am writing this column under an assumed nickname for your comfort and mine. The information and suggestions provided here should not be taken as a substitute for in person therapy with a trained clinician in your area. I offer here my perspective, knowledge, and experience to be taken, accepted or rejected as is.

I would like readers to submit topics of interest and questions you would like me to answer in the column. All questions will be answered with the author's identity withheld unless you specify otherwise. Confidentiality will be respected. Please send your comments, suggestions, and questions to me at shrinkonbarbie@yahoo.com

Ask Jacki
For those who can't think for themselves... by Jacki

Dear Jacki: We had a big party on New Year's Eve, but a terrible argument broke out. Just when did the millenium begin? 2000? or 2001? The drag queens all left in a huff. The party was a bust.
Sad in Seattle

Dear Sad: The millenium? I cannot believe people are still arguing over that boring subject. Sigh. Well, here goes, though Goddess knows, I have explained this a 1000 times already. The millenium did not start in either 2000 or 2001. The fact is that people have screwed around with the calendar so much that it would take a genius (that would be me, of course, though why I even bothered is beyond even me) to figure out when the millenium began. Why, even Julius Caesar added an extra day to July because Augustus had 31 days in his month! Men. Such babies. Now ... leap year. Who decided to do that? If that doesn't mess everything up, I don't know what does. Let's see, checking my calculations, there have been 250 leap years every millenium since time began, which was in the year 0, which I believe was 2001 years ago. What do you think we did about millenium questions before time began? What do you think we did about time before time began? Who said time began 2001 years ago?! Wasn't me. Anyway, by my most scientific, mathematical calculations, the millenium changed on April 25, 1991. (if you throw in the mess daylight savings time makes, even I can't figure it out) How's that? Did you have a party THEN? No? You call yourself a party animal? I don't THINK so! No wonder there was a brawl at your party. Get with it. Oh never mind, it's too late now. And anyway, I have much more important questions to deal with than THIS. By the way, take me off your invitation list. Your party sounds like a bust. Where did the drag queens go?

Dear Jacki: I work in a small office. The secretary seems to be hanging around my desk a lot and is very chatty ever since I came out to my boss. She is a beautiful woman, always wearing miniskirts and heels. I would really love to ask her out to coffee as it seems we have so much in common. I really think she is interested in me as more than a friend. The problem is that she is married to the boss. I am very interested in this woman.
Thanks, Nice View of Miniskirts in Manhattan.

Dear Nice View of Miniskirts: I am absolutely appalled at your letter! It is difficult for me to even imagine that someone would consider this at all. Now, listen, because I am not going to say this twice. You should already know this anyway, for goodness sakes! Have you no sensibilities whatsoever???? Miniskirts are NOT appropriate office attire! What kind of office do you work in, anyway? Humph! (have the woman call me ... soon, ya hear?

Dear Jacki: I'm slowly growing away from my friends. I feel I am smarter than all of them. None of them can engage in intelligent conversation. I tried discussing this issue with them and all I got in return was being called an egotistical b*tch. None of them has called me since then. I am getting quite concerned about their well being, actually, if they don't use it, they will lose it. How can I expand their mental capacity so that we can all be good friends again?
Brainy in Baltimore.

Dear Brainy: Get a life. You egotistical b*tch!

Dear Jacki: If it snowed in my part of California (or I decided to move where it does snow on occasion)... what would I wear to bed? As it is I wear sweatpants almost year round now.
Clothed in California

Dear Clothed: Sweatpants???? All year round? No wonder you can't get a date! Oh honey, silk, think silk. Get out of those sweatpants. I promise you won't be cold for long! (trust me, hear?)

Dear Jacki: My friend says that S & M is the wave of the future and that if I don't get started now I will be left behind. She seems to think that I have a trusting and innocent looking face. What do you think she means by that?
Wide-eyed in Wisconsin

Dear Wide-eyed: Get rid of these friends NOW. Do you hear me? NOW! Do as I say.....or..or....do I have to spank you, darlin'?

Ah, where does the time go? That's it for now. Don't forget ... keep those letters comin'. Without you, I'm nuthin'!!!! But without me ... you're clueless! See ya next month, darlin'




The Albuquerque Train Trip - 12/15/00 by ~FParis

Day one! OK, so now I'm off! No, wait! The train is late.
And now I freeze my keester off, outside … I smoke, and wait.

When it shows up, I board the train, O good, a window seat!
And all alone, yet I'm not bored, DewBear will make it sweet!

I hold her facing out for now, 'cause I want her to see!
Bet when we get a mile down, I want her facing me!

It's not that I am scared (yeah, right!) She may just help me sleep!
After all, day one is *night* … she'll help my mind to keep!

When I wake up I realize I am alone no more …
though I refuse to sleep with guys, what's worse, is this one snores!

OK, so now, I settle back … I watch the lights go by.
I hope the train stays on the track … I think I want to cry!

It jerks and jumps and I would swear it feels like small explosions!
Underneath, and here and there … I'm having mixed emotions!

My friend has left his seat for me, I fall asleep again.
This time I curl up like I'm 3; DewBear still in my hands.

Next thing I know, I'm wide awake, somewhere or another,
I see snow, for goodness sake; one side and not the other!

I haven't had a smoke at all, not since my own home station.
And so I find the smoking car, before my destination.

It's hard to walk, but dang it all, I find I am determined …
I get there and I wished I'd called … by God, I hear a sermon!!

Well, not by God, but these two men … I guess they knew we'd listen.
So I sat back, counting to ten … supposing it's their mission!

Not amused, I wish I'd had the nerve for telling him
in my own words that I feel my God needs no salesman!

O well, I think *there's no harm done* and put out number 3 …
'cause now I'm hearing something fun! Next stop … Albuquerque!

©2000/~FParis
(The train ride back was quite uneventful! Train full to the gills, and I got both suitcases at the same time!)


Promise by LaughingRiver

tumbling in the jasmine night
through years and memory and newness

your womon's body
curves into mine
so sensually

cool linen catching our dreams
through hours and nights and revelation

lavendar irises on white
caress us
so freely

wild beauty blooming in
secret forests
lips upon lips kissing

tumbling in the jasmine night
through life and love and promise


New Year Celebration by LaughingRiver

Tree-pearls spiraling
softly
caressed by wisps
of
primordial breath

an album organic
nature's geneology
recorded

a history made being made
ecosystem central

birth and death
nothing wasted
potential recycled
a perpetual New Year

the gift
eternity

wonderous celebration
beaming heavenward
through the branches

limbs nourished by
the mulch-carpet

Begin by Quiddity

I have reached the beginning
In the realization that life is
Greater than the sum of all my fears
I know that I am ready
Because I feel more alone than I ever have
Feeling alone means wanting someone
Needing that sharing
A morning sunrise freed my soul
Opening my eyes to the possibility
Of life beyond one
Planting the seed of a dream
Shedding this skin of jadedness
That had held me bound and lifeless
I take a deep breath of openess to life
I begin


Untitled by Quiddity

It has been said
that the pen is mightier than the sword
The one who said that has not seen
The one here blinded by tears
In vain attempting to draw
Blood from paper
I am no warrior and this pen is no sword
There is love in me but
The words come slow and painfully
As the night world sighs to me
You are ready
Begin to journey
Again without fear
Go to that mystical place where
Hearts take flight and worlds collide
Go to the place you never wanted to go again
The healing has come and I open my eyes
To the enigmatic
One day
The morning sun will arise
And I will find in me a warrior
With sword
The words of which shall
Find their way into your heart

Untitled by Cora

the rivers seek
the oceans...
sunlight seeks
darkness
and darkness
sunlight...
there is seeking.
there is liberation...
peace...
the rivers seek
the oceans...
sunlight seeks
darkness
and darkness
sunlight...
there is
seeking...
there is
seeking.

Cora Whitmore
May 1987

Amazing Womyn: Rosita by Froggie

Señora, me firma el cuaderno?" (Ma'am, you sign my notebook?). The sentence and the voice are unmistakable. I turn around, almost expecting to find Rosita behind me, staring at me, her enormous eyes eating up her brown face, and that very particular smile, a mixture of childish trust and adult awareness, that I have never forgotten.

Yet here I am, in the lanai of my house in Florida, thousands of miles and more than 25 years away from Rosita's smile. Rosita, whatever brought you to my memory tonight?

Rosita and I met for a few days during the austral winter of 1974. My sister and I spent that winter, our boreal summer, traveling through the southern part of South America, hitch hiking when we could, riding local buses when the lack of cars forced us to, and staying in the small, decrepit hotels our slender wallet could afford.

One night, in the middle of Bolivia, we arrived in a small town after a particularly challenging ride through the Andes in a worn out local bus. We were exhausted and famished. We felt filthy and stinky, and our moods were in complete harmony with the general state of our personal hygiene. All the downtown hotels were full or too expensive. So there we stood, in the middle of the main street, seriously starting to consider catching the very next bus to wherever, when a little voice came out of the dark: "Señora, Rosita tiene hotel, me firma el cuaderno?" (Ma'am, Rosita has a hotel, you sign my notebook?).

I jumped around, and there she was: a little bit of woman hardly higher than my backpack, with two enormous black eyes, staring into mine as if she was evaluating whether I'd keep my end of the deal, and a big, big smile. While Rosita was guiding us to "her" hotel, through a labyrinth of small streets and dark backyards, I tried to ask her some questions about herself but the answer always was: "Despuès... despuès..." (later... later).

Finally we got to what looked like a whole block of small houses. Rosita entered one of the houses and came back with a key, a notebook and a pencil. She showed us the key and said: "Habitación" (Room). Then she handed me the notebook and the pencil, stared at me and said: "Señora, me firma el cuaderno?" Too exhausted to discuss the gentle order, unable, because of the lack of light, to see what I was doing, I managed to scribble a signature in the notebook, grabbed the key and went to bed.

The next morning, I got up determined to find out what I had signed, but Rosita was nowhere to be seen. At noon, she made her appearance, a radiant smile on her face, and I had the surprise of a lifetime. Rosita was not, as I had thought the night before, a very short woman. She was a child, a beautiful little girl who could not be more than seven or eight years old. "Rosita, how old are you?" She looked at me and grinned "No sé" (I dunno). "Where are your parents?" In a wide gesture, she showed the mountains around us: "Por ahi, en el monte" (Somewhere in the mountains). "How come you are here if your parents are in the mountains?" She smiled again: "La patrona. Le dio platita a los papis. Y yo vine." (The master. Gave my parents some money. And I came).

When I heard that, my European blood went from my heart to my head, to my feet and back again in half a second. I was mentally cursing "la patrona," already preparing in my head a report to the Bolivian authorities, a law suit, an international Human Rights intervention. I asked Rosita: "So you're the only person in charge of this big hotel?" She proudly assented but added, even more proudly: "Y a la mañana, voy a la escuela. Con los papis no podia. No habia plata para cuaderno." (And in the morning I go to school. With my parents I couldn't. There was no money for a notebook.). She took the notebook out of the bag that was on her shoulder, opened it, and showed me the page I had signed the night before. "Ve? Hice toda la tarea. Y la maestra me puso un Muy Bien." (See? I did all the homework. And the teacher gave me a Very Good).

"I see. But why did you want me to sign it?" "Es la maestra. Dice que al cuaderno lo tiene que firmar un adulto. Para que vean que aprendo." (It's the teacher. She says that an adult has to sign the notebook. So that they see that I'm learning.) "How often does it have to be signed?" "Cada dia." (Every day). "And other days who signs it?" "Gente. Voy pidiendo. Despues del trabajo. Pero sólo a las señoras. Ud sabe," (People. I go asking. After my work. But only women. You know.). Those last words were said with a sad, knowledgeable smile, showing that whatever I knew of the dangers of asking men, she knew too.

We spent four days and five nights in this little town. Each night, after her work was finished, Rosita came to knock at the door of our room, "Señora, me firma el cuaderno?" Each night I signed the notebook, and she told me about all the new things she'd learned at school, and how grateful she was to "la patrona" for letting her go to school. My sister and I went to see the teacher. We told her how dangerous it was for Rosita to get her notebook signed every night. She promised to make an exception in her case. I can only hope she remembered her promise.

Now, I know what brought you to my memory tonight, Rosita. Tonight is Noche Vieja (literally: The Old Night), New Year's Eve. Tomorrow we will start not only a new year, but also a new century and a new millennium. The third millennium of our era. It looks so clean on the brand new calendar above the kitchen counter, this millennium. May we keep it clean! May we remember our priorities! May we remember that no child should ever have to wander the streets at night asking strangers "Señora, me firma el cuaderno?"








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